Why Won’t My Boyfriend Kiss Me?

Why Won’t My Boyfriend Kiss Me?

Are you frustrated wondering why your boyfriend won’t kiss you? Imagine, you had a lovely dinner, great conversation, and he drives you home. You pull up in your driveway, the anticipation builds for that goodbye kiss and yet again, you are left with a simple good night.  Let’s explore the real reasons behind the question why won’t my boyfriend kiss me.

Starting A New Relationshipnew relationship

The beginning of a new relationship can be tough to navigate. These first milestones for a new couple can set the tone of the entire relationship. So yes, it is a big deal if he hasn’t kissed you yet, and it is okay to be frustrated. My name is Ashley Rodrigues. As a licensed mental health therapist, I work with individuals to try to better their quality of life and build better relationships.

The Boy I Like Won’t Kiss Me

The first question I would ask is “Does your boyfriend know that he is your boyfriend?” Please don’t get offended. In the age of texting, social media, and casual hookups we’ve lost the art of the “relationship defining conversation”. Rarely do couples sit down and discuss whether or not they are officially boyfriend and girlfriend, or whether they are exclusively dating. I know it is awkward, but it will open up the lines of communication that will help your relationship lasting in the future. It is possible you are waiting for a kiss from your boyfriend that has no idea he is supposed to be making that move. Save yourself the frustration and the tension in the relationship and talk it out.

My Boyfriend Won’t Kiss Me

If you have already established with your significant other that you are exclusively together, perhaps your loved one is unsure of you wanting that kiss. The fear of rejection can be debilitating, so warm your boyfriend up to the idea. Any physical touch can indicate that you are ready for the first kiss and minimize the chances of rejection. Grab his hand, or touch his arm at dinner. Drop subtle hints so he knows that you are ready for that next step.

Talk About Ittalking it out

If your partner is pulling back from physical intimacy it can be a signal that there is something deeper going on. If the lack of kissing is a shift in behavior, sit down and talk about it. He may want to reevaluate the relationship or he is upset about something else. Instead of discussing it, he is withholding kisses and other forms of physical intimacy.

Communication Is The Answer

Relationships come in many forms. Every situation is different, but I hope this article allows you to look at the situation differently and provides some clarity. There are no set rules to this dating thing, so relax, maybe even make the first move yourself. Go for it!

Why Won’t My Girlfriend Kiss Me?

Why Won't My Girlfriend Kiss Me?

You had a great evening, but now your girlfriend won’t kiss you.  Well, I would suggest that after 20+ years of marriage and a few relationships before that, the women I’ve been with who had kissing issues had their reasons. I’ll tell you exactly why some men and women are left wondering why won’t my girlfriend kiss me?

Kissing Is Intimate

Intimacy is a very funny thing. We think of sex as being very intimate but when you get down to it, the most intimate act that two people can share is probably kissing. To put another angle on this, consider the behavior of the character in Pretty Woman. In many cases, she did not kiss her clients. Even though she was willing to be with them physically, she didn’t kiss them. She reserved kissing for her own chosen partner only. She actually felt that kissing another person in that way made her unfaithful. Odd, but true.

Am I A Good Kisser?Am I a good kisser?

First up would be real basic things like hygiene and basic kissing skills, or the lack thereof. In other words, is your breath fresh and your mouth clean? Are you healthy? Do you know how to kiss in a way that is compatible with your partner? Do you kiss wet and she prefers dry? Does she like tongue and you don’t? Kissing is supremely intimate and very personal, so how you do it must work with the person you wish to kiss. If your lady seems unwilling to kiss, have you ever asked her if there’s something wrong? Honest communication can usually get to the heart of such issues.

Kissing And Communication

While kissing is a form of communication between two people, talking is important too. The best relationships are always formed and maintained through steady, honest, daily communications. If a problem, like a lack of kissing comes up, the best and most direct way to address it is to talk about it. Simply ask your partner why she seems unwilling to kiss you in an open, honest way. Don’t get whiney or accusatory. You want to know what the issue is and how you two can resolve it.

Is It Ok To Kiss In Public?

Another aspect of kissing is the where and when question. Many women are shy about kissing in public or at least in front of certain people. Remember in high school when they used to yell at kids for excessive PDA (public display of affection)? Well, for some women, kissing, being that it is intimate, is reserved for private moments. But again, you need to ask your partner what’s up. Also, remember that there’s a big difference between a quick peck on the cheek and a full on mouth kiss.

Is It The Right Time To Kiss?right time to kiss?

For some women, kissing at certain times is truly a turn-off. Without trying to be too graphic, if you have just been kissing her in other areas of her body, she may be reluctant to kiss you due to, shall we say, taste issues. Perhaps she has just been involved in a similar activity and feels self-conscious about how she might taste. For many couples, the basic mechanics of being intimate, whether we’re talking about sex or just kissing, hugging and touching, require a certain amount of negotiation and understanding until both parties are comfortable.

Why Won’t My Girlfriend Kiss Me?

Finally, you have to ask both yourself and your partner if kissing is a simple issue or symbolic of deeper, more profound problems within the relationship. If your girlfriend doesn’t want to kiss you, maybe she doesn’t really consider herself your girlfriend. Sometimes it can be that simple.